“It’s easy to blame ourselves for not feeling 100% in our minds, but some of the causes of mental unwellness have to do with large systemic problems in our societies, among these, an emphasis on individualism, a manic faith in Romantic love and a cult of meritocracy.”
Welcome to the Full Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse in Aquarius! That’s a mouthful. And like all of it’s special attributes, you too might be feeling overwhelmed lately. So many planets are retrograde right now, including Mercury, but that’s a whole other post.
Every cell of my body has felt the change in the air over the past week. It’s like an electric current pulsing throughout the atmosphere.
I caught myself doing a lot: worrying, fearing, doubting… all of the things that are keeping me from where I really want to be.
And that’s in the flowwwww.
We come and go, but it’s always there, waiting for us to return. What is it you need to return to? Where have you lost yourself deep in your mind and forgotten that planning, and analyzing, and planning again won’t make you feel as safe as you think.
The only safety is in letting go.
So let go.
Stop holding on so tight to how you think things will manifest and look to see how they are actually showing up in your world.
Everything you asked for is here, it’s just waiting for you to open your eyes and acknowledge it.
I know life has been crazy lately, but take a moment to go somewhere quiet. Outside is always nice. But even if it’s just for one breath, close your eyes and allow yourself to just be.
Rest is an important part of the process. Things need time in the dark to develop and grow. Don’t confuse the quiet with stagnation. Remember that cycles are part of life. Enjoy whatever part you’re at in yours 🙂
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Painting by John William Waterhouse
If you aren’t ready to jump in the deep end with me, don’t waste my time.
I’m constantly shedding old ways of being to make room for the new. I’m going all in this lifetime!
So before you approach me, check in with your intentions. Do you know what they are? Not knowing is the surest way to create chaos in your life, and the lives of others.
When you can see what you want crystal clear, and if that is me, not some version of who you think I should be… hit me up!
I’m ready for some real lovin’. That soul awakening, music making, walking on the air kinda love.
I know things will never be perfect – how boring would that be anyway – but if you’re willing to put in the work, I am too.
What do you think we could create? What beautiful things can we bring into this world? Where can we transform the dull and dreary to gold?
Just let me know when you’re ready and I’ll be by your side.
photo by Kathryn Burns for LOOM
Living life with the volume turned all the way up! I’m learning to embrace whatever life throws at me and enjoy the ride. My sensitivity has allowed me to experience so much more and turn it into pure gold. That’s alchemy for ya!
What I’ve always thought was my greatest weakness, it turns out, is my greatest strength. I feel everything! And I feel it into the depths of my soul.
Before, I thought that being sensitive was a curse. It’s like living with the tv always on full blast and in technicolor. But recently I’m realizing how dope this is! The way I came to appreciate this special gift is by immersing myself deeper and deeper in life.
Before I would try to numb myself or run away. It was all a lot to process. But for the past few years I’ve started to say yes. Yes to everything! Yes to jobs I don’t think I’m ready for. Yes to relationships I’m pretty sure will end in failure. Yes to whatever life brings to me, no matter how scary and uncomfortable the situation may seem.
And you know what? The more I embrace and celebrate and live, the more highs and lows I allow myself to experience, the more life I live, the more magical it all becomes.
Sure it’s a little crazy to actually live life to the fullest. A lot of people talk about it, but how many people actually do? How many people really let life take them on this ride? And while I’m still learning how to surrender to everything without putting up a fight, I am getting pretty damn good at it.
I know it’s scary to not protect yourself and your heart all time. But that armor is heavy my love. And by closing yourself and your heart off from all the beauty life is trying it’s best to bring you, you are missing out on what this is all about.
Sure making money and “achieving” seem like really noble pursuits, but so many times they are distractions. They keep us from finding out who we really are. They stop us from breaking ourselves open and allowing life to rush in. Heartbreak and loss are just part of the deal. But if you let them, they will turn you into gold.
That’s the real secret: alchemy. That every single horrible and wonderful thing you experience has been given to you in order to help you transform. To guide you one step closer to being. To help you find who you truly are and what you came here to share with the world.
A lot of times I keep stuff bottled up inside, because I’m scared of what people will think if I tell them the truth. I feel like my feelings are usually too much for other people. Seems like nobody is ever on my level lol.
So today I told people some big things. And it feels better, but also worse. It feels better that I’m not the only one who knows anymore, but it sucks because nothing changed. And maybe that is just me being selfish and wanting to get my way.
I thought that by facing the situations and not running away they would work out differently. Usually I run away and hide and don’t tell people the things I need to tell them the most.
When I went through a bad breakup a few years ago and nobody seemed to really care or be able to be there for me. I grieved for so long and people couldn’t understand why I didn’t just get over it. Like you’re still sad about that??
My highs are too high and my lows are too low.
I feel like I’m stuck in a Telenovela. When did my life turn into this much drama and twists and surprises. I’m realizing I cut my hair to find something to control. Something to jerk me out of this crazy world. But that didn’t work.
Maybe I should just stop doing stuff. But avoiding has been working really well – jk. I’m scared to get quiet and feel the feels. I should just go to yoga and cry it all out, but it’s so damn hot outside I can’t bring myself to do yoga in a 100 degree room. Maybe that’s the type of cleansing I need tho…
It’s time again. To step across the threshold into the unknown. I keep thinking that it’s the end, there’s nothing left to change. But then it’s time to evolve and enter a new reality again. Life is funny that way. You never stay comfortable for too long – if at all.
Before I thought that all of these crises meant I was majorly fucking up. But… now I’m starting to think that they’re here to help me get where I’m going faster than I could on my own.
Every time I think I’ve been broken open to the very core, something comes along and forces me open a bit more. I’m constantly realizing that the depth I feel is endless. There is no bottom to reach.
That’s kind of terrifying, right? But also kind of exciting.
I’ve let go of as many expectations and plans and control as I could lately. It’s scary to just go along for the ride, but things are way better than before.
At least in some areas. I constantly find myself swinging from one extreme to the other. I haven’t figured out how to stay in the middle ground yet. How to balance work and play. Loving without getting attached. Fulfilling my need for security, but also my need to create and fully experience this life.
I’m hoping that this eclipse is the reset button that will put all the right pieces in the right place. Show me how to feed my soul. Show me how to take care of the physical things. Show me how to love and be loved. Show me to create without fear. There are so many things I’ve been working towards, but I need a little extra hint on where to go next.
Not that signs haven’t been showing up. I saw three double rainbows in the past three weeks. Repeating numbers are everywhere. But part of me is still skeptical and thinks I might just finally be losing it lol.
It’s like having a word on the top of your tongue. I can see all of my dreams coming true and living that beautiful life, but I just can’t quite figure out how to grab them yet.
I keep reminding myself that what’s meant for me will find me, no matter what. Life is happening for me, not to me. And to just breathe and be in the moment. But patience is not my default setting. It’s something I’m constantly practicing.
I should give myself more credit. I’ve seen so much shift in the past few months. I’m learning a lot and I barely recognize my world now. But I’m always striving for more.
Did you see that crazy sunset the other night with the lightning storm? I could feel the electricity surging through the air. Through every cell in my body. We are all capable of tapping into that primordial power any time. Why is it so scary to live our dreams? To be who we know we’ve always been. What are we afraid of losing?
Going through my Saturn return is definitely teaching me the graceful art of letting things go when it’s time. The tighter you hold on, the more rope burns you get. What’s going is leaving to make room for more of what we are each calling in. Maybe not what we think we want, but definitely what we need on our deepest soul level.
I’m going to take my own advice and open myself even more to the changes sweeping through me. I will grieve what leaves. But know that something better than I could dream on my own is making it’s way towards me.
It’s all about trust.
photo Tess Comrie
wardrobe My Little Belleville
makeup Ash Ho
After a day of adventure we were hangry. I had been trying to avoid going there at all costs, I hoped maybe he wouldn’t be working… but he was. Yikes.
I was nervous and kinda weird, but he was way nice to me and my family. My mom was all excited because she told me she had a ‘feeling’ about him when I first told her I met him. Her actually liking the guy I like is a miracle.
I was sad after we left because things between us hadn’t worked out how I wanted, and somewhere inside I still hoped we could end up together. I wanted my mom to be right (I think this is like the only time that happened lol).
Seeing him just made the whole situation seem more lonely to me. I could never tell him all the things I wanted to, there was too much! That’s the worst kind of regret.
But then I realized – fuck that! I’m done wanting people who don’t want me. I’m done with men who think they want me, but are only interested in my looks and don’t stop to ask how I feel about anything. And men who want to be 1/2 in 1/2 out. Just because we want the same prefab house… that isn’t love.
I’m fucking dope, and until I find the man who sees that, and who I think is equally dope, I’m cool with staying single.
No more unrequited love. No more doing girlfriend things for guys who can’t commit to having a girlfriend. I know what I’m worth and they aren’t willing to pay the price: commitment, communication, and holding each other down 100%.
I’m the queen of giving people so many chances and convincing myself that I can see how good they are under all the mess, if only they could see it too! But, the thing is… no matter how true that might be, if they aren’t willing to live that, then it doesn’t matter. Love is about action that is happening right now. Not some possibility in the future of them finally deciding to be who you want them to. And that’s not fair anyway, asking someone to be something just for you.
How did it take me a lifetime to learn this? And I’m sure I’ll forget and have to learn it over again. The lesson repeats as needed, right? lol
photo by Heather Nan for Soil and Stem